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But, But, It Isn’t Fixed!
By Dr. William K. Larkin on June 8, 2009
Many people live their lives with the idea that if this or that were fixed, then they would be happy or satisfied. That's just backwards. If you can't be happy today, whatever you need fixed tomorrow isn't going to make you happy for any longer a time than it takes you to forget what it was that was so important to your happiness!
I have a client who gets very, very worried about this or that from week to week. We do the work and use his strengths and by the next wee
k, I am anxiously waiting to see how things have worked out for him. He will go an entire session and never mention what was so important and so much in his way the preceding week. He has moved on to another thing that must happen in order for him to feel happy.
Find the
ways that you can be happy today, in the day, in the now. Let go and enjoy what you have. Then whatever you want will find its way to you, but not before you have learned to live in happiness and joy TODAY. If you cannot be happy today, or move strongly in the direction of being so, you will never be happy tomorrow.
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Mark E. Anderson wrote on Tue Jun 9th, 5:44pm:
Thank you Dr. Larkin. This is such a great real life example of cause and effect as you have taught. So many of us simply live in reactive mode. We encounter a situation and react to it. This is a living example of how we can BE THE CAUSE that brings the result we want. I’ve discovered this in small ways. I work from home and have recently given myself permission to enjoy my pool for 30 minutes - in the middle of the work day! That 30 minute break brings me happiness. It represents why I moved here, the beauty of the desert, and gratitude for my beautiful home and family. Not to mention being grateful there’s a pool at my office!
Dan wrote on Tue Jun 9th, 6:04pm:
This reminds me of an old Saturday Night Live skit.. Like Rosanna Rosanna Danna said..
“It’s always something!”
Many people feel there is always “something” out there, that will make them happy.. But as you have said many times. Happiness comes from within. I have known times, in the past, when I thought some-thing was what I needed to be happy, but whenever I got it, I didn’t feel any better than I did before.
It took me a long time to “GET” that I was responsible for my own happiness. Who could possibly do a better job of making me happy, than ME!
k2polo wrote on Tue Jun 9th, 8:09pm:
Do not pursue the past, do not lose yourself in the future. The past no longer is and the future has not yet come. Be diligent today for death comes unexpectedly..how can we bargain with it???? If I remember to say this whenever I get bogged down in the competitive “if onlys”, I remember to be present. To acknowledge all the wonderful things that are NOW, not 1 minute ago or the next minute to come. Enjoy your pool Dan as I enjoy my horses. Life zips by so fast, we have to lean into the great moments!
Ann Yandle wrote on Wed Jun 10th, 9:03am:
“Find the ways you can be happy today, in the now.” These words echo profoundly for me as I mourn the loss of a friend whose young life ended without warning recently. He was 48 years old, an accomplished and award winning photojournalist who had lived here in the valley and had just moved to Bend, Oregon. He did all the right things for his health - he was vegan, was an avid hiker and trail runner and was pursuing his passion by starting an environmental news website. He was so excited and energized by the possibilities there. He’d just had a complete physical before he made his move to Bend in May and then three days after he made the move, he died of a heart attack after trail running at a local park, sitting in his car. OK, wake up call for those of us who knew him and loved him!!! What’s the message, what’s the gift? Live your life, follow your passion, don’t waste one moment of the precious time you have on this earth in negative emotion. Follow your dream . . . take the time to figure out what your dream is if you don’t know. Create the ambiant soundtrack in your mind as a continuous loop featuring love peace joy gratitude and hope. Make it count . . . today and everyday!!!
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CHIVALRY57 wrote on Fri Jun 12th, 11:12am:
Thank-you Dr.Larkin
Inspiring comments by all! “Lots of Gratitude”. Everyday we live, everywhere we go and everyone we see…look for the “good” and not only do I find it, but more keeps coming around the bend. If it’s to be it’s up to me. Beaware of CNN (Constantly Negative News).
Ann Yandle wrote on Mon Jun 15th, 8:09pm:
Hi Mark, Thanks for reminding me to take time out for myself during the day . . . every day . . . to do something for ME that makes ME happy !!! I know better than anyone else what those things are, both little and big. I have a tendency to forget to nurture myself and your example of taking a little midday dip . . . just because you can . . . is a good example of how little things mean so much. As I age, grow and progress in my life, I’m finding that truly truly truly it is the little things that make the biggest impact.
I had a major Downspiral experience on Saturday and was feeling out of sorts. My sweetheart told me to just rest and relax and he would make lunch for me. He was in the kitchen for quite some time before calling me to the table for the meal he had prepared. There was a platter of yummy grilled shrimps sitting atop a bed of grilled veggies and a dipping sauce to go with it. Every bite was sumptuous and the extra serving of love made it the best meal I’ve had in a long time. The mere thought of those shrimps right now makes my mouth water and puts me in a major UpSpiral. Yes . . . it’s the little things all right.
Paul Hietter wrote on Wed Jun 17th, 1:16pm:
Live for today. This moment. It really is all we have. Through the past year’s experience with ANI and other learning experiences, I am living in the joy that is now. I do still stutter step a bit on old issues - my prayer work and consciousness in writing daily move away from the fear and into the compassionate man that I know I am. What is the saying, “you can’t ever get it wrong, and you will never get it all done”, comes to mind. I KNOW that there are deadlines - and those things come and go more freely, giving more time to believe in the good. I know for each us, that we are living and feeling things we have never experienced fully before this time. A grateful heart is our greatest reward.
Paul
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