In neuroscience studies done at Harvard, we discovered that whenever you use a swear word, it arouses the amygdala of the old brain, the place of strong negative emotions. When you read a swear word, it arouses the basal ganglia which, among other things, establishes our habits. Your swear words often make up your inner self-talk. If anyone on the outside talked to you like you talk to yourself, you would do battle with them. Talk to yourself like you would like others to talk to you. Talk to yourself in the kindest, most gentle and forgiving way. Talk to yourself in healing ways. For example: "I am a wonderfully kind, sensitive and caring person. The mistakes I make aren't nearly as significant as the good things that I do. My good so far outweighs anything wrong that what is wrong is disappearing." Say it and mean it and another part of your brain, called the anterior cingulate, which is the "heart" of the brain, activates feelings of love, peace, joy, and gratitude. The anterior cingulate will also lessen the negative activity of the amygdala of the brain. You are what you think and you become the emotions you live in. Your brain remembers how you talk to yourself.