The third measure of VibeCore, your inner vibration and the flow of your life, is designated as “Openness” to what you want in a way that lets it come in whatever shape it may arrive and in the right timing.
You have learned to create an UpSpiral, test and grow strengths, identify and grow a VibeCore, and build 5 goals into a FuturePac. You have learned to set a dynamic process into action. You have learned to do it with yourself first. You have been your own best client. I know how well you have done with this. I have watched your progress and understanding, and I have watched you grapple really very well with some sophisticated concepts. You have been a very competent group of learners. And you have had fun with this. But I know, more than anything else, that you have done a great deal of thinking. I know that this experience has affected your thinking and will for the rest of your lives.
There is nothing like learning, in a consistent way that can measured, how to be a more positive person. The energy of the UpSpiral is just phenomenal. It creates life, love and vitality. If you practice this work, you just get better and better and better. I am always stunned by how creative my students are with what they learn. You have learned that with consistency and over time, the positive can eclipse the negative. You have also learned that negativity and problems are not your territory, except to let your client solve problems on their own by using their strengths. You shine the light on strengths, never on weaknesses or problems. It is not an easy thing to believe in the positive, that it has more power than the negative. Tell us how you view what you have learned and what it means to you. How is it integrated into your life?
The best research is businesses and organizations that succeed show that they are committed to an identity snugly and soundly based on what is called an emerging “hedgehog.” It is the identification of what they do well and what they want to be.
No hedgehog ever fits snugly into place until the “stop doing” steps have been taken.
Here’s a life-changing, life-altering exercise for you. First of all, on a scale of 1-10, if “10” is a lot and “1 “is a little, feel the feeling of gratitude at about a “3” or “4.” Just a little will work and anybody can drum up just a little, even the most ornery grump or the most doubting mind.
Feeling gratitude, say the following to yourself 30 times a day, while you are in this state of a little bit of gratitude:
I have an abundance of health, wealth, happiness and love. I live in an UpSpiral of love, peace, gratitude and joy. My consciousness of Source, my monetary wealth, and my self-love grows exponentially daily.
And by the way, 30 times a day can be 3 times a day 10 times each time or 30 all at once. Either way, it’s less time than you spend in a day grumbling. ;)
See what happens.
Goals are the outward manifestation of our inward meaning-making system. They are expressions of our own sense of personal significance. They are signposts of personal development. What we are wanting and desiring is directly linked to how we are “making meaning.” Structures of reasoning, that are more highly developed expressions of consciousness, emerge as we are specific and intentional about our lives- at least they emerge much more quickly. Every want and desire, every goal, fits a transition, a movement from a stage or a settling in to a new one. It can also represent the deepening of a present one. It is this business of desiring and attaching that moves us on and allows the developmental structures of reasoning to unfold. The most exciting structures of reasoning aren’t even possible until after 45 or 50.
The Developmental Stages after 50 are not yet understood or really delineated. But they have to do with broadening or perception. We are designed to get the bigger picture in such a way that the depth at which we experience and appreciate life is greater, more expansive and more satisfying. Life is simply just richer because of our history and our story. The great gift of aging is that it lets us apprehend life at a deeper level of appreciation and awe. Getting the bigger picture, which is really akin to wisdom, is the source of a great deal of peace and inner contentment and the key to a capacity to more greatly enjoy one’s own life. But if we stop wanting and desiring, stop setting goals, and stop experiencing this broader and deeper learning, we interfere with the unfolding structure of the brain or the unfolding structures of “knowing.” The extent of suffering and decline in the aging process is really a battle against greater and greater aliveness and a “sell out” to some idea that age means decline. How many of the maladies in the second half of life are simply energy and aliveness that has nowhere to go except to create some illness or difficulty rather than continuing to grow?
We are living in an age that is reinventing the second half of life and growing beyond the fear of losing youth, but fear is always difficult to look in the eye in order to watch it wither.
What is giving you your meaning? What is the source of your sense of personal significance?
VisioNavigator Life Coaching is an educational, instructional, mentoring process aimed at the discovery of personal strengths, talents, and goals. It is characterized by a process of positive self-discovery, personal renewal and short and long- term goal setting. Its aim is to enrich the quality of and to enable the well-lived life by providing insight into and concrete methodologies for living a happier and more fulfilled individual, married, or relational life.
The sign of the success of having accomplished the purpose of this chapter is a sense of direction. It is that sense of “now I know where I’m going.” Armed with the creative power of the UpSpiral, the knowledge of your strengths and how they work for you, and having understood that your “flow” in life is really defined by your VibeCore, now we get to the nitty-gritty of what you want to do with all of this.
You could say that learning to be in an UpSpiral is enough, or that learning your strengths was a big revelation that allows you “to be.” However, “being” is always becoming because you are all about what you desire, what you enjoy, and the goodness that you create in the process.
When your goals are right and in place, even though they are always malleable, with experience, there is this sense of things “clicking” into place. They become a center for making decisions.
You have written 5-8 goals. How do they feel? How on the mark are they for you? How clearly do they seem to be a fit and define for you the direction in which you want to move?
These goals, if they are real for you, are already mapping your brain and giving it direction, let alone a sense of inspired purpose and direction!
What is your experience with your goals? Tell us how real they are and what impact they are having on your life, even as you begin to “want” them. That is where it starts. Never mind the “how” right now! What is the impact of beginning to “want’’ and “desire” them?
5:1
This is the Losada butterfly
It tells us that optimally positive results can be obtained at ratios of positive to negative that are at 3:1 or higher. For those in our courses, this means a great deal more. It is a portal to the consideration of the impact of gamma waves on the amygdala of the brain. In research by Davidson, we know that “compassionate meditation” can generate such a high rate of gamma waves that these gamma waves have the ability to reduce the impact, even the size of the amygdala which is the source of our negative, angry, reactive responses. We have more powerful evidence of the effects of neuroplasticity on the formation and, hopefully, the evolution of the brain.
The key here is to figure out ways that in the short run and the long term, weight your day more toward the positive than the negative by a ratio of at least, 3:1. We are convinced here at ANI that when that threshold is increased, even more significant, long-term changes in the nature of positivity in the brain change, so long as it is authentic in nature.
So the task here as students of the positive mind and future coaches is to find ways that significantly weight the ratio of 3:1 that go beyond the usual things like saying 3 positive things to every one negative statement you make.
You are learning to “weight” or “stack” your day to produce, by the standards of the Losada Butterfly, an optimal day. By the standards of Davidson’s work with gamma waves, you are weighting your day something like “flow,” to be in a state of “moving meditation” so that the style of your day is like a meditation. No, let me change that. Not like a meditation, but IS a meditation. A high VibeCore creates flow, for example, and it is moving meditation.
Everything ANI teaches is about “weighting” this ratio. What are you learning as you become certified and licensed that is most significant in doing this?
I can put it in a sentence. Raise the UpSpiral and Emotional Scales, raise the VibeCore to “flow” levels, increase the ratio of positive to negative by at least 3:1, and use the Emotional Gym with all of this to create an increase in gamma waves and a structural decrease in the activity of the negative, reactive, angry amygdala.
That is your assignment as coaches. How are you making it happen and what is happening to you as you do?
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