The “How” that Binds

By Dr. William K. Larkin on March 30, 2009

One of the biggest problems in moving forward with confidence, trust, and hope is that you cannot see the "how." But think about it; if you knew the "how," you'd probably already be there. The "how" is the part that blocks what enables it -the visioning, the believing, the faith that knows that the real "hows" that are exciting and enriching and life-giving, only unfold in the process. It is in that process that we are most alive to life and most discovering ourselves, if we let it be so. Life is a process of creation and anything thing you do or anyway in which you're living that has even a slice of adventure has an exciting "how" that's unknown, just waiting to be revealed.

That is when the greatest creativity, the greatest learning and the greatest sense of "aliveness" can occur. We live in a time where large "HOWS" are unknown, and that makes them also unknown in our lives. NASA didn't know how, Edison didn't know how, President Obama doesn't know how, and in the plans you make all the time, including all the things that you want, you stop wanting them if you always have to know the "how" beforehand.

Your job is to ignite your desires with the power of your thought, and it is the job of the Universe to reveal the "how." The space between "wanting" and getting the "how" is the space that most requires you to be the fullness of who you are. Then, and only then, are you able to receive the "how." Let go, enjoy, live in the UpSpiral with the glory and beauty of today-- and the "how" will emerge.

You Attract What You Largely Feel

By Dr. William K. Larkin on March 17, 2009

Feelings are the great revealers of truth.  That is why we spend so much time sitting on them and hiding them and betraying them.  That’s why we dump drugs and alcohol on them, so we don’t have to feel them and listen to the messages they want to give us.  They tell us what we are thinking or how our thinking and perception are conflicted.

It is not that our little, everyday feelings are magnets that bring everything to us that is just like them; it is the patterns of emotions and the predominant emotions that get conditioned in over time that attract to our lives what our experiences are.  You get what you largely feel because you are in the process, in your way, of creating it.

The most predominant emotional state that gets us in trouble is feeling “oppressed.”  It is the feeling of being powerless or the threat of powerlessness in some way.  It is that point at which we feel that things are happening to us over which we have no control and that we are victims.  It happens in those times when it just feels like it’s getting to be “too much”. Our tolerance level has been reached and we begin to feel a little or a lot “overwhelmed.”

But here is the thing. Feeling overwhelmed and powerless is learned.  You learn it over time.  Because there is always an escape from feeling overwhelmed, disgusted, over-it, powerless, or fed up, and that is that there is some reward.  The reward is whatever you do that is not dealing with the problem directly; it’s how you avoid the real issue and just “get away.”  Maybe it’s food, maybe it’s booze, maybe it’s sex, maybe it’s religion, maybe it’s depression, maybe it’s raging and scaring people away.  Maybe it’s isolating and shutting out the world.

Feelings of powerlessness and being “fed up” didn’t just start today.  They’ve become a larger way of feeling over time.  They are a larger way of avoiding and “dealing” with what isn’t working.  These feelings of oppression are largely a way of feeling sorry for yourself, angry that you are, and they are directed back at you in the form of feeling “powerless.”

When something doesn’t feel good it’s telling you to ask what you want. What do you really, really want?

However, there is something you can do that can help.  When you feel largely in a negative way, go to a positive place.  Use the Emotional Gym and go to a feeling of love, peace, gratitude and joy that is not an escape from the problem but a place that is easier for you to observe it.  You can’t use the Emotional Gym to hide from negative feelings, but you can use it to better look at why they are there.  Practicing positive feelings will give you a buffer of a better place to observe what you let get you down.   Go to a higher place and look at what feeling “oppressed” or “powerless” is telling you.  How much of it is a habit that needs to change?  What do you need to stay away from?  Just what needs to be different? If you can’t figure it out, talk it out with someone.

When you largely feel “oppressed” or “powerless” you attract more of the same.  When we make a decision to move in another direction and realize that you can feel a little gratitude or a little peace or a little love, you start to shake loose from feeling overwhelmed and oppressed. 

Much of the time we are just too easily oppressed and overwhelmed, and feeling like a victim is an excuse for not taking action, for not being direct, and for not being clear with yourself about what you want.

Pulsing to Oneness

By Dr. William K. Larkin on March 9, 2009

There is within us this search for unity, wholeness, and oneness. We are always being drawn to it and the more separated we are from ourselves and others and from this ultimate source of unity, the more discontent and out of our own skins we are. We are drawn, as if to a magnet to Oneness and Unity. But how to get there?

As simple as it is, our state of mind can take us there by plugging us in to this sense of unity. When you practice the Emotional Gym, especially the exercise of pulsing, you are going to be headed in that direction. Even in the beginning, when it seems that you can't even feel the feelings of love, peace, gratitude and joy and you can only think them, the contrast of that experience causes you to look at how your thinking or your behaviour needs to alter, usually just a little at a time. By no means do we have to be in a perfect place to feel any of these emotions. They will come just by wanting them and they will increase over time. You do not have to be whole or well or complete to get them. These feelings are at your finger tips and they are there for you all the time, even in the midst of loss and difficulty. They are present and possible even in pain.

Positive emotions like joy and love lead to a sense of unity. In the face of anything, you can have them. In the midst of suffering, you may be only able to think them, but by wanting them, they come. Begin by pulsing them on a scale of 1-10. "1" is a little bit of them and "10" is a great amount. It is not great amounts of them that matter; it is small amounts of them over time that matter.

100 pulses of love, peace, joy and gratitude a day will do more for you than one or two very big experiences of these emotions in a month. Just pulse a little of them each day, over and over and over until they become the ambient sound track in the back of your mind. They will begin to play like a song that you can't get out of your mind.

Zorba, in the midst of deep grief over the loss of his son, chose to dance. Dance with these emotions that are also states of mind, and your intention to feel them will grow, and they will answer you back and grow within you.